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Dispelling the Myth that Homosexual Parents Raise Gay Children

February 28, 2011 by Leave a Comment
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Many close-minded types cling to the ridiculous notion that homosexual parents will indoctrinate children into being gay. This is so far from the truth that it’s in outer space. Having a gay lifestyle is not something that many homosexuals will say that they did not willingly chose. They cannot fight their biology and deny who they really are, deep down inside. But the fact that they are gay should not and does not keep them from being excellent parents to perfectly normal children.

No one understands more deeply that their sexuality is ingrained into them as someone who is homosexual. Only those who are twisted go out and try to “convert” straight people into becoming gay, and even then they aim for adults, not children.

Instead, gay parents want to raise children because they desire to have someone carry on their legacy, even if it is not genetic. But even there it is not so simplistic. Gay couples adopt or have surrogate children because they want the completion of having a family. They are fully prepared for the challenges of raising a child into adulthood and embrace it willingly. There is no agenda here to create a fictional gay army to take over the world. The couple dreads the day that their little girl brings home a man just the same as a hetero couple does. That is to say, they realize that their little girl is now a woman and will soon be leaving them. All they want is to experience life the same way as a hetero family does, and maybe even have what may have been denied to them when they were growing up.

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An Evolutionary Argument for the Existance of Homosexuality

February 26, 2011 by Leave a Comment

It has only been within the last two hundred years, if that, in which homosexuality has become a taboo issue. Puritan attitudes by and large have made homosexuality a hot button issue in the US. This attitude ignores the fact that homosexuality has been known in humanity since the dawn of mankind. In fact, there is proof of homosexuality in all mammals. So why has evolution seen fit to provide a population that will not reproduce, a trait that denies the most driving tenet of life?

Humans started out as hunter-gatherer societies. The men left the camps to hunt and bring back meat while the women bore then raised the children and gathered edibles. Having a homosexual male in the group provided a pair of hands to help with caring for the children, someone who was not focused on the hunting and would stay around to assist with the female’s chores. The women had help that was young, strong and not likely to be limited as with someone who was elderly. Children benefited by having a close relation raise them as opposed to someone unrelated. They would also benefit by being the recipients of any excess the homosexual relation might need to dispose of, be it clothing or food.

Fast forward to current times and we find not much has changed since then. Families who have a homosexual relative often look to that individual for assistance. Not being encumbered with children and family duties gives the gay family member an opportunity to provide many things to the siblings with children. And children benefit from the loving attention provided by the uncle or aunt who have no children of their own to spoil.

 

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Difficulty in “Coming Out” for Gay People

February 9, 2011 by Leave a Comment

The term “coming out” represents public and personal acknowledgement of the attraction to same sex individuals, and integrating it into their vocational, social, and personal lives. It is often a difficult and long time processing their identity of being gay, lesbian, or bisexual.  Not being just one event, there are a few stages to this process of coming out; to self, to others, exploration, integration, and relationships.

 

Once becoming aware of an attraction to people of the same sex, there are feelings of isolation and fear to overcome, often setting up defenses of repression and denial before understanding their romantic feelings are strong and can not be changed. This involves acknowledging to themselves “lesbian, bisexual, or gay” describes what they feel and want. Just knowing doesn’t mean they accept they are gay, some struggle with fear of rejection, guilt, shame, and keep their knowledge hidden. Once acceptance is made of being bisexual, gay, or lesbian, disclosure usually is made to a trusted family member or friend.

 

After acknowledging, accepting, and disclosing their sexuality, their next stage is in exploring how they fit into their new world. This often brings on confusion, intensity, awkwardness, and is extremely sexual and might be construed as promiscuous. During this time of discovering sexual partners, gay identity and self esteem could be enhanced, but also might become not only compulsive but addictive as well.  Establishing and negotiating a relationship with just one person will meet both of their emotional and sexual needs. Some relationships might last forever, but if not, there are things one can learn from every relationship. After becoming comfortable with whom they are most initial anger, grief, self-hatred, fear, and panic is replaced and resolved. They have a peaceful feeling about who they are as a bisexual, gay, or lesbian person. They don’t feel they have to broadcast or hide their gay awareness because it really doesn’t matter who knows or what they think.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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History of the Lesbian Lifestyle

February 2, 2011 by Leave a Comment

The lesbian term is used to describe romantic and sexual desires between women. Throughout time, female homosexuality existed in several cultures, but only recently has the word lesbian referred to them as a group. Historians re-examined those relationships in history between women and came up with three identifying components for lesbians: sexual identity, desire, or behavior.

 

In the 17th-19th centuries, when women expressed love passionately to other women, it was accepted, fashionable, and even encouraged. These encounters were said to be romantic friendships and were very common in Europe, especially England. When a woman formed an exclusive and strong bond with another woman, she would be considered still virtuous, chaste, and innocent. A woman’s reputation would have been destroyed if she had formed the same relationship with a man.

 

Men have set standards for respectability in family, sex, and love relationships and have overlooked or considered lesbianism an invalid sexuality expression. Sexologists believed early on those lesbian challenging gender roles as being mentally ill. Since that time, lesbians reacted as immoral outcasts and created subcultures based on rebellion of gender roles. Recently, standards are challenged by feminist movements. Some women that engage in behavior of homosexuality reject the identity and refuse to be known as bisexual or lesbian. Homosexuality in males and adultery has gotten more negative responses from criminal and religious authorities than from female homosexuality.

 

Society has been both threatened and intrigued with women who challenge their gender roles, appalled and fascinated with those women who become romantically associated with other women. However, those women adopting that identity, as homosexuals, are rejected and face discrimination from friends, families, and others. Lesbians continue being affected by social attitudes in forming families and lesbian relationships.

 

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